Vancouver Self-Worth Counseling Services

You decide what your self-worth, or personal truth, is. Every single one of us has one - something we believe about ourselves when nobody else is watching. Our personal truth is what we really say to ourselves when our social mask is off.

Once you decide what your personal truth is, then you'll be less vulnerable to what others say. The stronger your self-worth, or self-esteem, the better you feel about yourself and the more confidence you have, the less susceptibile you are to what others say.

Vancouver counselor Barbara Mulski's self-worth counseling service helps develop a professional confidential relationship with you to assist you in:

• Investigating your emotions and actions
• Discovering your dysfunctional thinking
Identify your "musts"

• "Must" #1 (a demand on yourself): "I MUST do well and get approval, or else I'm worthless." This demand causes anxiety, depression, and lack of assertiveness.
• Must" #2 (a demand on others): "You MUST treat me reasonably, considerately, and lovingly, or else you're no good." This "must" leads to resentment, hostility, and violence.
• "Must" #3 (a demand on situations): "Life MUST be fair, easy, and hassle-free, or else it's awful." This thinking is associated with hopelessness, procrastination, and addictions.
• Reinforcing your self-esteem, or self-worth preferences.
• Preference #1: "I strongly PREFER to do well and get approval, but even if I fail, I will accept myself fully,"
• Preference #2: "I strongly PREFER that you treat me reasonably, kindly, and lovingly, but since I don't run the universe, and it's a part of your human nature to err, I, then, cannot control you,"
• Preference #3: "I strongly PREFER that life be fair, easy, and hassle-free, and it's very frustrating that it isn't, but I can bear frustration and still considerably enjoy life."
• You can learn more realistic ways and, with practice, make them a part of you.